The two facets of a coin

They say Tears convey more than what words can ever say. I say there will be no tears if u let words to speak for them selves.

Is it important to view things how others see, or is it better to see what we feel is correct in the light of the facts. Facts? Who tells us what’s correct and what’s not? A thing which is correct to me might be off beam to someone else. Who decides is it right or not?

Interacting with diverse personalities over past few years has taught me to see each and every thing In the light of how others see it.
I’ve always tried to look at things with other’s perspective but have I been able to do so or will I ever be able to do so? Coz no matter however impartial we try to be, our conscience will drive us towards what we think is correct.

In our daily lives there are innumerous things that happen which have so many facets which one can’t even imagine of. Viewing a thing from other’s perspective is not as easy as it seems to be. Being a User Experience designer I’ve always tried to see whatever I create from the user’s perspective. I’ve spent dedicated days and months to make a single design work and believe me at times the results are just the contradictory to what we tried pulling off. It hurts under the belt when someone takes out a few precious seconds from their busy schedule just to criticize and rip apart your hard work into pieces but looking it from a different eye I can say my critics are my best gurus. Hadn’t they criticized me then, I would have not reached where I am now and if no one criticizes me now, ill never be able to reach where I want to be… That’s another perspective to look at the same situation.

The art of stepping into the shoes of another smoothens the entire process not only at work but in personal relations as well.

Taking an extreme example of a murderer, the thought that will come to all of our minds would be “he should be punished for the crime that he has committed” but is it correct to form an opinion without viewing things from his point of view. Who knows what has he gone through which led him to commit such a discreditable feat? Having a look at the string from his perspective may prove him correct and make you respect him rather than detestation.

I have experienced such paradigm shifts practically at work as well as my personal life. I preferred staying away from a colleague known to be rude and unsociable but good at her work. I often wondered the reasons for her hostile behavior with all the contemporaries in spite of her impressive personality and position in the organization. Considering it as nothing more than ego and self esteem I never initiated a dialogue with her until I came to know the fact about her broken marriage and the emotional trauma that she had gone through at such a young age. The immediate paradigm shift made me feel guilty inside some corner of my heart and thereon I myself noticed a vast change in my attitude towards her.

All of us might have given our shoulder to someone who’s needed it while passing through a bad phase of their lives… a sour relationship, conflict with a the boss, financial crisis, no matter how profound the problem is, we all have the ideal solution to give to whosoever needs it.
But have we ever tried keeping ourselves in the same situation and deciding what the optimum solution is? To comment upon and to suggest is easy however implementing it might not be that easy.

Have you ever noticed the facets of human personality? I myself have so many facets of my own personality, some of them even I don’t know. How valid is it to form an opinion about someone who is good or bad just to you? Easy right! Coz if the guy has been good to you he is always a good person no matter however shades of grey he might have for the outside world and if the person is not good to you he is bad no matter how much goodness he possesses.

Every human personality is a color chart I believe…. Some times or the other we all have shades of grey, with some we are warm- brown/yellow, somewhere we are cold as blue and blank at times just like white. To get a particular shade of human personality a lot of factors and circumstances are responsible.

Sometime back I had an extremely respectful and high position in my heart for an ex boss. Throughout my tenure of what I had spent working with him, my respect for him went on growing. I had good times and bad times but no matter what, he stood by me. And finally it all went down the drain at the time I left that company. Does that gives me a reason enough to believe his egocentricity or is there a possibility that whatever he did was not his intention, sheer work pressure, organizational policies and other personal reasons might have led him to such a behavior.

What I think is that nobody can be termed as good/bad, positive/negative, and optimist/pessimist just because I/we feel so. It’s a feeling that comes from inside. For whatever I do, my conscience tells me is this right or not and so will be told to all of us if we take a minute to think before doing.