Heart Vs Brain

Got to hear this interesting conversation over the radio last evening bout relationships... The Issue was "Being committed to someone if you fell in love with someone else". What happens then? and there were innumerous experiences of so many users but a common struggle that all of them had gone through was of mind vs. heart coz at some point of time their mind obligated them to stay loyal to the relationship in which they are in, whereas their heart insisted to tag on their new love. However whatever course they took.. Mind or the heart, over some time none of them had regrets for the decisions they took... is it so? Or deep inside some where they still regret the decisions they too and don’t want to make it public?

This battle is not confined to relationships and commitments solely, it extends to the smallest things we do in our daily lives. For a diet conscious women, a piece of chocolate truffle cake can be a matter of heart vs. mind battle and for a politician or a cop when someone offers a bribe is again a reason for the quarrel amongst the two. (need not mention the heart always wins in this case ;)

As a social practice that we start preaching and is taught to us since childhood is to follow out brains and defy the heart as far as possible. A kid's mind is well aware of the fact that cheating in exams is not a good practice and he can get into problems if he does so but his heart says that’s the easiest way out. He knows (as always taught) stealing isn’t a good practice but the heart says a small effort can get him what he wants. Mind shouts don’t lie, its not good but the heart says this will benefit me immediately... so why not?

Mind says office politics is bad. It may give me a bit raise but it might ruin someone’s career but heart says how does it matter to me unless until I am benefited out of it.

Thinking bout the whole issue of Brain Vs heart at some point i realize Brain is selfless and thinks logically. It doesn’t thinks of immediate personal benefit at other's expenses where as heart is selfish. It sees nothing apart from oneself. As a co-listener to this radio show, my friend comments: "The other side of the pasture is always green". True. I totally agree to this. Some how this has always been a case for me and in my opinion this stands true for all of us. As a kid we always want to grow up fast. But when we grow up, we wish we were kids again. A common notion with all husbands: They will always find others wives/ girlfriends better than theirs .I as an employee will always find other employees in a position better than me.

Getting an offer from one of the best brands of the country my thought were WOW what a company would it be... It would be heaven working with this company. But those beautiful thoughts took no time to evaporate and my want for a better package and a better company aroused back in no time. Joined a better company at a better package with the same thoughts and the same want for something better has popped in again. I think that’s a normal process and have got used to it now.

Switching a job arose a bigger Mind Vs Heart battle for me. Working with a single company (no matter how the place is) on the same project for more than two years makes you love the place and the work. No matter what but i easily get attached to the work place and the work (Not to be quoted People you work with). Getting a good offer from a better brand at an excellent package to my mind seems a logical career move which will help me move ahead in life but what bout my heart which is still at the same place and doesn’t wants to move on??? Who Wins?? Obviously Mind coz career growth is more important.

As a designer, we get to listen this quite often that don’t get attached to your work and don’t love your design. Again mind says don’t get attached to your work and heart says how is it possible. This is a piece of art that i have nurtured and created over so many hours of dedication. That’s the beauty of my hard work. Who win's?? Of course heart coz I by myself can’t let it go.

This battle of Mind Vs heart seems to be endless to me but in no case there can be one sure shot winner. Even if the mind overpowers the battle, the heart has to surrender. Will cheer the heart some other time and if heart wins, mind will get its share the next time. Achieving that balance between the two is the strength of character and personality and if we are able to do so, we will stand out as winners.